An Unpopular Response to the Time Magazine Cover, Bring on the Hate Mail

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I don’t get what the big deal is.

I mean if  Time Magazine asking “Are you Mom enough?” beside a picture of a mother nursing her toddler insinuating you’re not mom enough unless you nurse your toddler, makes you feel like less of a mama, then you need to reevaluate your confidence as a mother.

If the cover had been a mother sitting in her living room farting around on Facebook while her 9 month old screamed and cried himself to sleep in his crib and the caption had read, “Are you Mom enough?” insinuating it takes a hardcore, mom of the year type woman to let her kid cry himself to sleep it wouldn’t have made me feel any less of a mom. It would make me think poor, poor baby, but it would not make me feel less of a mother just because that’s not how I parent.

Am I missing something? And trust me, I have read allllll of the responses to the cover. Is Time Mag really pitting us against each other by asking this? Trust me when I tell you that if it ever comes up in conversation that I had my baby at home or that I nurse my kids until they don’t want to nurse anymore or that at least one kid sleeps in the bed with us every night, unless I’m preaching to the choir, the majority of women don’t find the need to hold back their disapproving opinions on how I parent!

And on top of that, Attachment Parenting IS hard! It is hard fucking work. And not everyone is cut out for it. What is so wrong with that. And I’m not talking about women who wanted to breastfeed but struggled with it or women who wanted to have a natural birth and it didn’t work out. Women tell me straight up all the time, “yeah, I don’t know how you do that. I need my time” or “I need my space” and even “that’s too hard”. “Are you Mom enough” may not have been the very best wording but it sure does sell magazines. Isn’t that what Time Magazine does?

And you know what..I liked the picture too. Not all nursing mothers are overweight. She looked beautiful and strong. What’s so wrong with that? So now is Time Magazine insinuating that if you have a toddler and you don’t look like this mama that you are a lazy and fat and inadequate?

Get the fuck over it already.

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5 responses »

  1. Thank fucking Jesus!!!!! So glad someone said it. I love the cover photo and it shows not every moment of breastfeeding is sweet cuddling quiet time. Toddlers want to eat and go sometimes!! This cover has brought out hate In so many women it’s very sad! For me, I can’t WAIT to have another child and breastfeed till he/she is done with it and have a beautiful HB, all that jazz ❤ you rock woman.

  2. My thought is…. If it ain’t your boob or your toddler DONT WORRY ABOUT IT! I know I’m a good mom so I personally don’t feel threatened 🙂 And I firmly believe that it takes a special kind of woman with a special kind of strength to practice full blown attachment parenting. There are a lot sacrifices to be made that most (myself included) are not willing and/or able to make. So I say more power to you! 🙂

    • Exactly. We are ALL great moms as long as we do what we feel is best and love our babies 🙂 no matter what our “style” is 🙂

  3. That was great! I’ve been in awe of the uproar. Folks are easily sucked in and unable to take a step back and see it for what it is. Different strokes for different folks. It shines a “crazy” mamas light on AP which is unfortunate. We do what works for us. We all have the potential to look back and question our actions/methods OR to be confident that we did the best we could. In the end I’m happy with that.

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